Why Relationships?

If you are happy by your own nature, your relationships will become a means to 'express' your happiness, not a means to 'seek' happiness. If you form relationships to seek happiness all you are doing is trying to squeeze happiness out of somebody else, and he's trying to squeeze it out of u! Become joyful by your own nature; make relationships an 'expression' of your joy!

I wrote the above lines just as I sometimes write certain thoughts down whenever I feel like it. As usual, people wrote back saying ‘nice lines’. But to me they are not lines, or thoughts, I have tried, and still try living it. With time, with awareness and with consciousness you can live like that—fully alive.

Why do we form relationships? I would say relationships are not important! I discard them! There is no reason to ‘form’ relationships. Either you have a relationship with every being here, subtle or gross, or you have no relationship at all with anything. For me, I am already in relation with everything, whether I am aware of it or not, I don’t need to realize or ‘form’ it separately. To that extent there is no significance of ‘forming’ relationships, because they naturally exist.

But you still answer me—why are relationships important to you? Because somewhere they make you happy? Right? If you have no relationships you are depressed. That means you are seeking happiness out of somebody, simply! You need somebody to make you happy, otherwise you won’t be happy. There is always a need to squeeze happiness out of somebody or something—everything that you do in life from morning to evening—even the relationships you ‘form’ are of that nature.

Initially, you may feel good in such relationships because it is fulfilling some initial need. But it is sure to lead to extreme misery and frustration over time, because the basis of relationships as we understand and pursue them is wrong and false. You are not naturally joyous; you need a source to make you happy all the time! Its madness! Insanity! Do you really think such relations will sustain or remain beautiful?

Forget beautiful, it will squeeze you out one day of all life because of the premise on which it was formed---you were squeezing happiness out of somebody and that person was doing the same to you! And one day it’s all over—the joy is gone! Then what? You become wary of one relationship, hop to the next one and then keep hopping for the rest of your life. That’s pretty much how ‘relations’ as we understand and see them have worked so far.

Only if you are joyous by your own nature, you will be happy in any relationship. Because you will then form that relation to ‘express’ your joy, and not ‘seek’ joy out of it. From ‘pursuit’ of happiness, bring yourself and your relations to be an ‘expression’ of your joyfulness all the time!

Are you mad about life...or mad at it?

Sometimes work gets maddening, but as long as you enjoy your work, you love going mad. Don’t we all go mad about so many things in life? You could be mad about cars, watches, gadgets, movies, sky-diving, biking, food…so many things in life. Or you get mad at cars, movies, food, some nasty colleague…or even your boss! It could be anything around you—you either choose to be mad about certain things in life, or you choose to be mad at the same things. And that ‘about’ or ‘at’ changes your entire perspective towards life and your responses towards them too. In a big way!

So what have you chosen to be—mad about things or mad at them? I am leading you to a more profound aspect of existence by asking you the above question. And my second question, therefore, automatically is—for people who have chosen to be mad at thing—why? And for those who have chosen to be mad about them—are you happy with your life then?

I know I am taking the risk of scratching your ego and even asking you—are you happy? Most of your would love to say yes. None of us want to admit that we are not happy with what we have chosen. But the answer lies here precisely—if you know what you have chosen and why, then why be in conflict? I would be happy if you are, but I want you to look deeper and ask your self just this question, everyone of you—what is the purpose of your life?

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We are a classroom of freshers

The need to blog probably arises from the basic human need for communication. And the same goes with your mobiles and other gadgets that fulfill that need. To gauge the need in humans to communicate we simply need to look at the tall figues and profits the mobile companies are making! Its quite likely that you are spending a substantial amount of your salary on just phone calls! Yes? Thankfully you dont have to spend the same over blogging! Its cheap, at leat much cheaper and gives you the advantage of communicating with numerous people at the same time. Same goes for the social networking sites. Its no big secret--their popularity. Our need to reach out more and more is maybe, just the same as what it was 50 years back, but the available resources, mediums have multiplied now.

While communicating one may want to talk about diverse subjects that arrest his fancy at the moment or define his inherent tendencies. But to intensify the communication it should be consolidated and focussed. Otherwise it becomes like a school with no defined periods...so you may end up eating your lunch at 9, sleep at 10, and studies---well the real cause goes for a toss!

I am a fresher here. And am glad about it. And so are all of you, on my blog. Its like a classroom full of freshers...how about getting organisez a bit then?I want you to specify areas that you want to indulge in through communication with me. And i shall be thrilled to write on that. Do let me know what you want me to blog about.

Best!